When Life Feels Heavy (But You Still Show Up)
Some weeks feel heavier than others. Not because of one big, dramatic thing—but because of the slow build-up of small moments.
A messy house. A tired body. A transition that’s still not quite finished.
This past Saturday, I felt the weight of it. We’re still in the thick of moving and renovating—settling in, creating new rhythms, deciding what goes where. I looked around and realized both my home and my heart needed a reset.
So I did the simple thing: I started cleaning.
Laundry. Dishes. Wiping down the kitchen. Folding things back into place.
But as I moved through the motions, something deeper surfaced—a shift that’s quietly changed how I move through hard seasons:
I Don’t Allow Myself to Complain Anymore
This is a mindset I’ve been practicing (and stumbling through) for a few years now.
It didn’t come from a podcast or a quote on Pinterest. It came from real life, real messes, and a husband who gently, consistently reminded me:
“Complaining doesn’t change the situation. So why complain?”
At first, it felt like a dismissal.
But over time, I saw the truth in it—how much I was letting my words keep me stuck.
Especially as women, complaining can become a subtle thread in our friendships and routines. It feels like connection. It feels like honesty. And in small doses, maybe it is.
But for me, it was often rooted in comparison.
In unmet expectations.
In seeing myself as a victim of my life, instead of an active participant in changing it.
The Power of Reframing
Now, when I feel the urge to spiral or vent, I pause.
I write it down. I let myself feel it. And then I ask:
How can I reframe this?
Not in a performative way. Not as toxic positivity.
But in a grounded, truthful way that shifts the focus from “self” to “selfless.”
Instead of:
“I have to do the dishes again…”
I now say:
“I get to clean up after a week of meals that nourished my family.”
Instead of:
“I’m stuck inside again…”
I say:
“I’m grateful for a home that shelters us through every season.”
This isn’t about ignoring hard things. It’s about noticing what’s also true. It’s a little corny but it works for me.
A Video Reflection
If you’re in a season of transition… if life feels heavy and the house feels like one more thing to manage, I created this video for you:
Watch: Resetting My Home (and My Heart) After a Hard Week
It’s a slow Saturday reset—part home vlog, part heart reflection. I clean, reset, and talk about the mindset shift that’s helping me show up with less resentment and more gratitude.
One Last Thought
Anything worth having usually requires the sacrifice of self—our comfort, our pride, our habits—in service to something greater. Whether that’s a home, a family, or simply becoming the kind of person you want to be.
So if today feels heavy, you’re not alone.
But you do get to choose how you move through it.
Sending a breath and a quiet reset your way,
Katelyn
@kmdcreates
